Hala Taha:[00:00:00]You listen to YAP, Youth & Profit Podcast. A place where you can listen, learn and benefit. Welcome to the broadcast. I'm your host, Hala Taha. And on the Young and Profiting podcast, we explore a new topic each week and interview some of the brightest minds in the world. My goal is to convert his wisdom into practical advice that you can apply in your daily life, regardless of your age, profession or industry.
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Our theme ranges from improving productivity, gaining influence, the entrepreneurship arc and more. If you are smart and want to improve continuously then hit the subscribe button because[00:01:00]I love it here on the Young and Profitable Podcast. This week on YAP, we speak with top performance expert, global speaker, podcaster phenomenon, and bestselling author Ed Mylett.
Ed began his career in the financial services industry and climbed the corporate ladder at the World Financial Group. Eventually he gave up his managerial position to start his own business. Today, Ed is an extremely successful business mogul with interests in dozens of companies in technology, real estate, health and nutrition.
And he has a reported net worth of over $450 million. Ed is also the bestselling author of Max Out Your Life and his new book The Power of One More was released earlier this week. Ed's Weekly Podcast The Ed Mylett Show is often ranked as Apple's number one business podcast. Well, it may seem like Ed always has, but he doesn't come from a wealthy family.
In fact, Ed's childhood was far from idyllic, but it's something[00:02:00]Ed learned by overcoming difficulties and challenges that turned him into the charismatic, genuine and empowering leader he is today. And that's why I'm so excited to bring this conversation to you. He's honestly one of my year-round favorites.
In this episode, Ed and I talk about his dad's struggle with sobriety and what it taught him about transformation. We learn why Ed believes you need to touch your dreams to make them come true. And let's take a look at his new book, The Power of One More, where we'll delve into topics like regulating our identities, programming our reticular activating systems, hearing his top tips for building confidence, and much more.
If you are looking for inspiration, change your life for the better and achieve everything you ever wanted. You need to hear what Ed has to share. I promise you will love this one.
Hello Ed. Welcome to the Youth and Beneficiaries Podcast.
Ed Mylet:Thanks for the invitation. I've been waiting for this all day. I'm excited.
Hala Taha:Me too. I'm excited. You are one of my favorite podcasters. we interviewed a[00:03:00]a lot of the same people so I usually hear their show before the guest comes to my show. I study with your program so you are one of my favorites. And for those who don't know him, he's a renowned speaker, performance coach, entrepreneur, and bestselling author worth hundreds of millions of dollars.
They built nine-figure companies and now own shares in 23 different companies. So this is all very exciting. He has also just published, is about to publish his latest book entitled The Power of One More. It will be released in June. So let's dive into all of that. But before I get to the point, I always like to think back to your youth and you are very different back then.
I think it will be very inspiring for my listeners to hear how you've changed. So, according to my research, you grew up in California. You were the only boy in a family with three younger sisters. You're a skinny kid nicknamed Eddie Spaghetti and you seem very confident and outgoing, but it turns out you weren't always like this.
So tell us something[00:04:00]They were like a child and a teenager.
Ed Mylet:Thanks for the great preparation. That is great. I respect him because I have a show. Child, insecure, shy, scared, afraid, depression. That sounds good, doesn't it?
Ed Mylet:I'm the son of an alcoholic father, so I grew up on someone else's power. The book I have is a bunch of life lessons about that. But then when you grow up in a dysfunctional family, you grow up scared and not very comfortable with yourself. So many mornings I left the house in shame. And why do I have to come from this family when everyone has a normal family?
And then I was little. As he said, I was bullied a lot at school and that's how I got into personal development. By the way, my dad, the good news is my dad got sober and completely turned his life around, which we're going to talk about. The funny thing is that my father died on the 20th of April. he sobered up. So my dad birthday is friday 4/20 which is funny only my dad would do that.
But what happened to me is that I was good at sports. He was a good baseball player, so this was the only place he could thrive. But I had to learn about personal development and self-help and the strategies for doing that.[00:05:00]Building confidence and visualizations in your special activation system in your brain and all these other things just to become a fundamentally functioning human being.
And then when I got there, I thought, wow, I'm good at this. I have my own strategies, my own style, my own things I learned from my recipe. And then I started taking them to another level. And so, I think, I became a pretty self-assured person. That doesn't mean I'm not still battling some insecurities or fears just because.
But the things I write about in this book changed me because I had to. So when you say hundreds of millions of dollars and all of that so far, it seems so weird to me that it's true. If you knew me at any age, even high school, I wouldn't have failed in high school.
I thought, oh, there's Eddie Mylett, just another guy. You would never have chosen me He didn't get good grades, but he wasn't the dumbest kid. Do you know what I mean? As if you were there. i was just a guy
Hala Taha:Yeah, it's really interesting how people change and you always talk about these little actions that really add up over time.
and so is it for you[00:06:00]like hard work. It's not that you're so exceptional, I heard you say in an interview that you had a very average IQ. It's not that you're an exceptionally smart person. You just work hard, don't you?
Ed Mylet:Yeah, I work smart too, so yeah. I don't have a high IQ, the funny thing is that recently, for the second time, my family has my wife and two children just for fun.
We took the IQ test again. I'm the fourth of four in our own house, so keep going. I know my limits, for example I have to work more than people, but I also have to have nice things to save in life. Do you know what I mean? Like a cool chant that speeds things up. . So I learned all these strategies about my timing and my patterns and my special activation system in my brain and how to program it and yeah. I don't come to the table and I don't want to, if I were brilliant I wouldn't be able to give people hope. If there's something very special about me, it's that I believe that ordinary people build extraordinary lives every day. And while I'm coaching some of the best people in the world, whether it's politics, entertainment or sports, and some of them[00:07:00]have extraordinary abilities.
And some of them don't. And I've seen both types of people succeed in life. I'm just the one without great skills or talents who's accomplished some pretty good things.
Hala Taha:Yes, you have some great talents. You are an incredible communicator. Speaking of which, how did you learn to master these skills at such a young age?
Ed Mylet:I'm watching you do it, so I'd like to know how you did it. But he was not young. In fact, my biggest fear was public speaking. But Napoleon Hill doesn't think and enrich himself on the other side of temporary pain, lies his other self. So if you can go on, I have a chapter in the book called One More Inconvenience and I literally teach you how to chase the inconvenient things.
So one of the most uncomfortable things I could do would be to get up and speak in public. In fact, it would be difficult even for me to speak privately as only three people in a room. But on the other side of that discomfort and pain, I really got to know a gift that I had. And God gave me a very good and deep voice.
I could have known all along, but I didn't. And so I studied public speaking, but not as an orator. therefore my[00:08:00]The style is different, well, a poll just came out and classified me as the best speaker in the world. I think wow. And to think that 25 years ago he had never done that.
Because I have not studied speakers. I studied comedians, I studied my favorite monologues. Most of my best friends are standups. I go to comedy clubs. These are the best communicators on the planet to walk into a room full of strangers and make them laugh in 20 seconds. The way they position nuances, the body language, the way they use silence, the way they use tonality.
And then I watch a lot of preachers too. I've seen a lot of pastors in my life, like TV pastors and things like that, because they're great speakers. Now I'm not like any of them, but I'm a little bit like all of them. And that's what I really did, model. I think one of the world's lost art forms is modeling people not by copying them, but by modeling and transforming them into your own nuanced style. So this is the exact answer, how I did it.
Hala Taha:Yes, this is very interesting. You have that preacher-comedian approach to your communication style. This is very interesting. So let's talk about transformation. So you recently lost your father. I also made. I think we lost ours[00:09:00]parents at the same time.
In fact, he lived something of two lives. I think you were 15. He sobered up. And he basically turned into a whole different person. And I'm sure this also had a lot to do with your personal transformation and your ability to believe that people can change. Can you tell us about it?
Ed Mylet:You did. My belief that people can change is not a belief. It is knowledge. And it's knowledge because I saw my hero do that for the first 15 years of my life. My dad got sober seven days before my 15th birthday and I said it was April 20th and nine days after his birthday. For the rest of my life, my dad never really celebrated his birthday. He just celebrated his sober birthday.
Ed Mylet:I believe people can change and they know they can't. Because I saw my hero do it in the first 15 years. My father did not live well. I didn't live well. The last 35 exceptionally best lives I've ever seen live. So I know people can change, and that had a bigger impact on me than when my dad got sober, but there's the Mos, like in the book, that those lessons started with his sobriety.
We're driving, I've never seen my dad cry. We are going to a baseball game[00:10:00]Mine and he cries when he drives. I'm like, oh no, what's up? And finally he stops and says hey, I'm trying to sober up again. Because he tried so many times and said I'll try again.
There is a chapter in the book called One More Try. I said daddy, what would be different this time? And he said that I will lose everything, your mother will take you and the girls. Then I will lose my family. And you know what? You deserve a father to be proud of. Your mother deserves a husband she can respect.
And then he sobered up and I said daddy are you going to stay sober forever? You will never drink again. Whew, I don't know. I won't drink for another day. And there have been so many times in our lives. So we think that all we have to decide is permanent. The truth is, very few things last.
We both lost our parents, like ours, their bodies didn't last. It turns out to be correct. They were temporary and most things are temporary. In business, I was often close to giving up because that idea never let go. That's a tough thing. But I always said: You know what? It's okay, I won't stop another day.
Let's see how I am tomorrow. And the next day I don't stop a day. And those more were really starting to add up.[00:11:00]If I could tell you something new, it's just a new development for me. It's a long answer.
Ed Mylet:I apologize, but I wanted to share it with you because I already love you for the way you prepare it.
So I'm going to share something extra with you. I wrote this entire book about all those lessons. It is a very heavy book. There are many detailed things about your brain, self-confidence, identity, time management, leadership and fairness. And it's hard. It's not, it's not like another book, most books are just another book. It's the same book.
Hala Taha:I agree. I read a book like I read two books a week because of this job. And I felt like it was something new.
Ed Mylet:Thank you very much. Yes, I love Think and Grow Rich the way I am, but every book I read is like the same derivative of it, as in someone else's words. And I think I've read that book.
I read, I stopped reading. And that's not it, but I woke up about two weeks ago, it's been three weeks and I woke up my wife and I was like a baby and I was so excited. I said baby I want everybody to hear this. You can remember this for the rest of your life. It's not even in my book.
I said baby someone helped my dad And it never crossed my mind. She says what? She wakes up. I said someone helped my dad. The most important[00:12:00]My lifelong decision is for my dad to get sober. That's why I speak to millions of people, our children, our grandchildren, millions of people. I turned to a precious soul, I helped my dad through the darkest, most embarrassing time of his life.
Someone reached that point in their humanity and saved our family. And I don't know who they are. And that had never crossed my mind. And I said baby, come down a level What qualified this person to help my father? What were they most ashamed and ashamed of. They were also once addicted to alcohol and drugs.
So the things they were most ashamed of, the things they were most ashamed of, the things that most disqualified them from winning. Because most people listen to your show. They say yes, but I'm young and they don't know me, but I've done these things. I'm ashamed I never did this. I broke up with my boyfriend or girlfriend or with me, my first business failed.
I am not disqualified. The very things you are most ashamed of, or consider average, are the things that qualify you to make a difference in other people's lives. This person,[00:13:00]Imagine you've been drinking, driving drunk, and making the biggest mistakes of your life. Little did they know that they were preparing for this moment that would change my father's life and mine.
And then millions of other people by extension. The ripple effect when they did drugs, stole money and lied that they created it. It's your humanity, it's your weaknesses, it's your weaknesses. It's the things you're most vulnerable to when you share them with other people and then show them how they can do something better that changes people's lives.
If you call your weakness like I would start, I'm stupid. I'm not the dumbest guy in the world, but I'm the smartest guy in the world. People say they can't believe you're saying that about yourself. It helps me to connect with you. If he had an IQ of 250 you would say this guy is amazing. Of course.
No, I have a 760 on my SATs. I am a C plus student. It wasn't me, I didn't run 4440 like it was a regular guy. And you know what? It prepares me to help you. This person's addiction to drugs and alcohol led him to transform the lives of millions of people. So never disqualify yourself.
Hala Taha:Wow, that was powerful. I got chills when you said that.[00:14:00]History. I love that. We're definitely going to cover a lot in your book, and I definitely want to spend half the interview on that. But I would like to report on your trip and I have a lot of questions for you personally. So let's make the highlight real.
I don't think we have time to describe your entire journey, but why not start with your first job after college? So you were unemployed, living in the house you grew up in, and your father told you to work at a home for underprivileged children. So tell us how this experience changed your life.
Ed Mylet:My father came home from his first AA meeting. Isn't it crazy? He sobered up.
Ed Mylet:He says: Hey, I got you a job. And I said what is it? He says: You cannot choose a man. you eat from my fridge I had just finished university. I didn't work, I go there and it's an orphanage. My children were all court wards, which means their families abandoned them or took them with them. My kids weren't abused by their parents either.
Hala Taha:No man.
Ed Mylet:They were either dead or in prison for serious crimes. And so I entered cabin eight. My kids were all eight to ten[00:15:00]Years. He had no preparation to be there. I was not a psychologist. He had no children and didn't know what he was doing there. And finally, when I walked in, everyone was getting ready for school and everyone turned and looked at me.
So here I am. And that turned into a three-year journey where I was her brother and her father and I would drive her to school and trick-or-treat her. And I was there on Thanksgiving when her uncle planted them. I was her father, her best friend. And it changed my life. And it changed my life because before that it was all about me.
Baseball, my ego, my problems, my life. When you have 10 kids aged 8-10, you don't have time to think about yourself. You have to think about them. And that's what I learned while I was there, and this may sound strange, but that's how I made, I don't know, several hundred million dollars.
So worth a listen, these guys wanted me someone to love and care for them. And here's a big problem: most people can't get anyone to believe them and just show them how to do it better. And while I was there, I started my finance company and other businesses with real estate and stuff while I was there.
And when I left there[00:16:00]I realized something. They weren't unique. Do you know what you want? Do you know what my best athletes want? That I train the people who run the countries I work with? The most famous people you'll see me playing golf with are the people I work with. They want people to love them, take care of them.
Here's a big one, believe them and show them how to do better. So when I started my finance business, I came from a place where I loved people, I cared about people, I believed in people a lot. And then, hey, let me show you when to connect with you like this. Now let me show you how I can help you.
Ed Mylet:And that's where I've always built all of my businesses, my podcast, my finance company, my tech companies, my chocolate company, my food company, my finance company, my real estate empire, all built on what I've learned from these faces. And here is the last one. God does not call the qualified. He qualifies the calls.
I wasn't qualified to be there with these guys, but when I got there they asked me to be there. So he qualified me to help them. So you don't have to be prepared your whole life and know everything to jump in somewhere and really make a difference.
Hala Taha:I love that. Are you still in contact with any of these guys?[00:17:00]
Ed Mylet:No one has ever asked me that. God bless you. Yes, about three quarters of them. One of them died. And with some of them we lost contact with time, but now they are men with families. And yes, I do, and no one has asked that follow-up question in all the years I've been talking about it. So yes I do. I love her. you are my family
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Something really interesting is what you just mentioned, you just mentioned the fact that you have 20 different companies that you invest in. And a lot of people think that in order to get rich, you have to have all these different streams of income. You need to have multiple streams of income, passive income, and all these different things.
But it turns out the focus is really on how you build your wealth, and then you can diversify your income later on. Can you tell us something about it?[00:22:00]how important is it to focus and be really good at something?
Ed Mylet:Yes it's a lie it's a fact. This is not true. That all millionaires have multiple streams of income.
So what do we do when we don't have money? Come on, I have several lines. I must have a mortgage deal. I'm doing an automotive detailing contract there. I got a weed thing here and you ended up broke. Although it is true, although it is a fact, it is not true. What I mean by this?
Once you're worth millions of dollars, diversify your income streams into multiple streams. But getting there is basically doing one thing. Stay Good Be the best mortgage broker, be the best realtor. Be the best entrepreneur. be the best Whatever you do, be the best podcaster.
Be the best influencer. And build the cool thing. size increases. Greatness creates wealth. And if I'm totally committed to excelling in an industry and you divide it by three, I'm going to kick your ass. There is no possibility. When you do three things and I'm in the same one where we overlap and I do one. Imagine I wanted to be a major league baseball player and I'm[00:23:00]I go up and say: yes, but I also do laundry on the weekend.
I'm learning piano and I'm a plumber, but you play baseball all day. Who will become Major League baseball player? The idea that, oh, I'm going to diversify. Many of you do two or three things, God bless you. You do it for the right reasons and you lose energy.
You are exhausting your ability to grow. You get smoked by the person who dominates the space you're in, dominates the space you're in, dominates the business you're in, becomes a millionaire, and then you get multiple streams of income, focus.
Hala Taha:I totally agree. I see this with podcasters all the time.
There are people who are podcasters who have no idea how podcasting works, how podcasting makes money, how sponsorships work, how everything works. And it's like you have to learn your craft if you really want to succeed at it, otherwise nothing happens. So here's another point that I think was really inspiring for me as I learned more about you.
And then you always talk about stepping into your dream, the need for it.[00:24:00]Really experience your dream. I remember hearing him tell a story about you and your wife, how to go to the Ritz-Carlton and just do it for a day, to get a feel for what it's like to have valet parking and stuff like that.
Today you have a private jet and that's crazy. They have reached a point where few can afford a private plane anymore. And then talk to us about needing to really live your dream.
Ed Mylet:You have to touch your dreams and that's because you belong to them.
You move into what is most familiar to you in your life. Therefore, if you are constantly comfortable with your current thoughts and life, you will constantly move towards it. So every now and then you need to play your dreams. So, as you said, when I was on the rise, I used to have competitions with myself.
If I didn't hit her, I wouldn't do this. But I would say, honey, if I make 10 sales this month and I make eight thousand, we're left with $500. We're going to the Ritz-Carlton on Saturday night. There we have the cheapest room. But he would touch the dream and thus arrive like a great beast. I would give the keys to the valet.
I've never done this shit before. Hello sir[00:25:00]Mylet, they're getting your bags. I used to be so cheap. I say no we have our bags. Because I don't want to give the messenger four dollars. . Now I'm like, no, get my bag, man. You go upstairs, check in, hey honey let's go to the room. Get a massage honey, I'm going to play golf.
See you later at the pool. Let's have a bottle of wine. And so, for one day, we would play that dream. We would sit there again. I'd say baby someday we'll live like this all the time We'd just try and maybe six weeks later we'd do it again. Eight weeks later we head to La Quinta Resort, we're doing it again.
And over time, I suddenly think I'm familiar with the valet. I know the sea front. I know the golf course. And I think our place is here. All of a sudden, the more I know about it, I start looking at houses when I'm there. So I start playing golf a little differently.
. And at some point I think: we belong here. Because I didn't grow up like that. We used to hang out on the beach where I live now. We would go to the Ritz, I can walk up the mountain. That was the other place we were going to go. When I got older, I went straight to the Montage for breakfast. But we used to go to this beach when we were kids.
I would say, darling, someday we'll get a house on this beach if we take these walks. I had no idea how to do this.[00:26:00]She says you are dear. I think one day because we were high school sweethearts. I think so, one day we will. And when I got home I would say to my father, I would say father, who are these people?
Who are these people who have it? He says, Man, I have no idea who these damn people are, I've never met any of them. I haven't met, I've never met anyone who lives near the sea.
Ed Mylet:And then I found out. They're the only look, in the book I have this chapter called The Matrix. I love the matrix about your RAS but the real reason I read about the matrix is because in the matrix neo is in every family if you find a family rich or successful or happy but you go all the way in their lineage they were not.
And then one appears. The family member gets up. Take all the hits, fight for this family. I am the only one in my family and they are changing this family forever. The world doesn't treat Myletts the way it used to. Nobody else has their fingers crossed for my family. We think differently. We operate in the other world because the One appeared, the One, and when you hear that, you are the only one in your family.
You are the only one. And over time, walking along those beaches and going to the Ritz-Carlton, I realized that the damned is me and who will do it. Now I[00:27:00]literally live on the beach. It's one on an island, which is approximately a hundred acre island. You said I have a jet. I will jump.
I had five jets. I've had five jets in my life. And then assume how broke I was for the first time in my life. The water was cut off in my apartment. I was completely without electricity, without water, without cell phone. I went to an ATM and prayed. I had $21 in the bank so I spit out 20 because all I spit out is twenty and I have $14 and I can't even get $20 out of an ATM.
I know what it is but I also know what it means to touch my dreams and now I know what it means to live my dreams. And what makes me different from most people is that I didn't get rich by telling people how to get rich. I got rich, then I tell people what I did to get rich. And so, in this book, are the strategies I made and documented.
Hala Taha:Yes it is a very good book. I think a good transition and a good foundation before we get into the book is to talk about the reticular activating system, the RAS. We've talked a lot about neuroplasticity.[00:28:00]No show. We had John Assaraf and Dr. Caroline Leaf, and we've talked about that a little bit, but I'd like to hear from her perspective.
So what is the reticular activating system and how do things like falling asleep activate the system?
Ed Mylet:You are one of my favorite interviews. Oh indeed. So RAS is chapter two. In my book I cover, I called it the matrix within the book. But that's it. It is the filter that reveals everything that is important to you in your life.
And it shows that you are right. It's the tester that keeps you sane too. Otherwise you'd think of all the charms, the blood, the blood in your air right now that you're breathing, right? So you have to keep your sanity for her to reveal what matters most to you. I'll give you an example. I bought a Tesla a week ago.
I like what Elon Musk is doing. I call my team, say hey, bring me one of those Teslas. I want to start driving the guy's car. The next day Tesla is in my driveway and suddenly I'm driving. See damn Teslas everywhere. Childish. Red There is a white one. The other day I thought: That's three in a row.
You must be kidding me. I'm on the highway. Three lanes the other way, the other way, baby, there's a black Tesla parked there. Now I see them everywhere. they were not[00:29:00]always there? They are.
Ed Mylet:But I didn't see them before because they weren't part of RAS, they weren't programmed into my filter. If you enter a room full of people, I enter a room full of people, there can be 500 people in a room.
Audibly doesn't need to say it out loud. Someone says, Ed, when I hear that name, I can audibly hear why it's important to me. So the key in life is to program your mind so the Teslas become the relationships, meetings, thoughts, and discoveries you need to have in your life. They've always been there.
They're there now, but you don't see them because they're not programmed into your SAR. They are not programmed like Tesla. how do you program I teach you in the book, but I'll give you something. Repeated hypervisualizations of your dreams and your imagination and what you want. I have a chapter in the book where I say, become an impossibility thinker and a possibility doer.
And here's the deal. In your life, you operate from one of two mindsets. 99% of humans operate from history and memory when they grow up. You operate from it. You have thought patterns, behavior patterns. you work with it and[00:30:00]reinforce it with different people, different circumstances, the same life.
1% of people act on fantasy and dreams. That's what they did when they were kids. The reason you were happier when you were a girl or a boy. First, you were closer to God because you just left. Second, you had no history or memory to operate with. They are about the imagination.
To change this in your life, start imagining and dreaming. When you have a thought, a real thought. It creates a space in your world that did not exist before thought was created. And now your mind goes to work, filling it with references and evidence. So if you're worried about your fears, your fears, your worries, your past, you're constantly finding the Teslas amplifying that.
If you've created a thought about the future, an idea and a dream and you play it every now and then and visualize it over and over again, it's very simple. I'll show you how in the book. you do it anyway You visualize and keep thinking about what is bothering you and what you are afraid of all the time.
I just let it fall to the imagination. Then you'll start to see those Teslas in your life, the meetings, the people, the places, the things.[00:31:00]By the way, you are one podcast, one decision, one meeting, one relationship away from changing your life. This is also the power of plus one.
Hala Taha:Yes, and this is how you can program RAS incorrectly. You can think bad things, say bad things about yourself, and then perceive the world with all these bad things that you don't want. Can you talk to us about how we can make sure we plan everything right?
Ed Mylet:Correct programming consists of repeated thoughts, visualizations. He connects with people who can also reinforce those beliefs and thoughts. If you want to know how powerful our RAS is, let's go back to the example of the drug addict or alcoholic. You will find a way to get what you had in your life. So if you are obsessed with your worries and fears, you will find a way to get them.
You'll get them every week, you'll get them. No matter how good life is, you'll have that depression, that fear, that anger, that worry because it's familiar. Caroline Leaf has a very interesting thing that she talks about a lot, like our feelings weren't good or bad, they just were.
And whatever they are, it's you[00:32:00]I'll get it. But this junkie, think about it for a minute. Isn't it amazing? Think of someone you know who might have a drug problem. , they could literally live on the street. No resources, no work, no money, nothing. They somehow find a way to get those drugs everyday, right?
Like maybe they have to do something illegal? Whatever they have to do, they get these drugs, they get them. Not without resources, without preparation, without anything. What if those drugs became your dreams? The fact that you are not prepared, the fact that you have no resources is irrelevant. People show it with the negative things in their lives every day, don't they?
But you can test yourself with the positive things in your life, and you do this by visualizing them over and over again. The other thing you do is start your life over. Stay with me. I have a chapter on goals, which is great. I'll show you how to set goals as best you can, but at best you'll hit 25% of your goals.
If they're ambitious, what are you going to achieve all of your life? your standards. Eventually you will always get your patterns. Goals without standards are therefore empty. That's why I teach the Golden Chapter and the[00:33:00]standard chapters together. Standard. Stay with me. You tricked someone into your program to steal my content.
I back it up because I've been saying this for 30 years and I say that if you want to build confidence in yourself, you must keep the promises you make to yourself.
Ed Mylet:Everybody says that. Well, I'm pretty sure I said it first, but even if I didn't, who cares. So if you don't have confidence, it's because you have a reputation for keeping promises. You don't keep the promises you make.
You want to build confidence in yourself and start delivering on the promises you make, which is great, but anyone can do that. But what if you change the default? What if there was another? What if I not only keep the promises I made to myself, but also make others? So I'm not going to make good on my promise to work out and do 10 reps at the gym.
I will and I will make another one. I'm not going to just do cardio and do 30 minutes. I'll go and one more minute. I will not make 10 contacts a day. Keep that promise. I will make the 10 contacts. I keep my promise and my standards once again. It's not every day that I get to tell my daughter I love her and keep that promise to myself.
I'm going to do this and then I'm going to do it again every day. You are superhuman now. Now you have become someone[00:34:00]that he lacked confidence, confidence, the superhuman. And that's the pattern that changes our lives, and so we begin to reprogram our RAS.
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I love this one more concept. I must say it is a unique concept. I read self-improvement books.[00:38:00]all the time, and I love the fact that you're just saying go a little further. Give 110%. Don't stop at one hundred. It is not enough. So I love it. So, your book comes out on June 1st.
Is it still coming out on June 1st?
Ed Mylet:Yes, I'm aware of that. Hopefully.
Hala Taha:Excellent. I was lucky to get a copy earlier. Like I said, I loved it. You just passed one more. So let's talk about identity. I think this is the next good point to discuss. Let's talk about how identity is defined and how our identity is formed in childhood.
Ed Mylet:It is installed in us as our parents install our loving parents. Even when they are in love, they build some of their limiting beliefs into us when we are helpless. When we are children we don't know. My father, God bless him, I love my father very much. He was a great man, but he had this thing. He always told me, You're going to have fun with this.
He would say to be careful. Since I was a little boy. Hey dad, I'll check. Hey, have a great game. Be careful. I don't think he knew why he said that. I turned 50 last year. What you gonna do today? I'll, oh, I'll take Max's old games. Have a good[00:39:00]Time. Be careful. What am I paying attention to?
I have a speech in front of 30,000. He goes, wreck the speech. Be careful. Like him, it's a figure of speech, isn't it? But it's a reflection of something in him, and my dad didn't like to take risks. My father always wondered who is awake. And so I got older and grown up, I have to be careful. what are you going to do with me
Maybe I don't want to make a mistake. What will people think of me? I don't want to screw up this deal. I don't want to, I would worry. Why am I a warrior? Because I was always told to be careful. He didn't even mean it, but he said it. And that became part of my identity. Your identity is your own value.
They are the thoughts, beliefs, and concepts that you hold most true about yourself. Here's the best analogy I can give for it. Your identity is the thermostat setting for your life. So in this room, it's set to 75 degrees. Not really, they say 70 today. So let's take 70. It's 70 degrees outside.
i live on the beach It's about 85 degrees right now. External conditions have nothing to do with this thermostat. Because when it's 85 outside, the air conditioning turns on and sets the room to 70. That's your life. I owe[00:40:00]Explain your life to everyone now. So if you stay in a 70 degree identity, let's say there are different, faith, fitness, fun, joy, peace, money.
Let's just use success. Money. Let's say you have a 70 degree indoor thermostat worth money, and you start learning all these skills on the podcast and then your business, and now you're at 80, man, you're going up, you're making 150,000 in 95 money degrees. When these results finally transcend your identity, you will unconsciously turn on the air conditioner in your life.
uh oh Everybody say shit he's right. And eventually, over time, it will cool it down to exactly the thermostat setting no matter what. And it won't look casual. crypto crashed. The stock market has gone in the wrong direction. Our interest rates have gone up. Supply Chain I had to lend some money to my friends.
My car broke. My mother needed help. Fool, you put air conditioning in your life and recovered. You see it in fitness. Someone is in a 70 physical condition, weighs 20 kilos, weighs too much, loses weight. Do you see her? A year later, he was put back in air conditioning.[00:41:00]So the key as you gain skills is to customize your identity.
And in the chapter of the book I teach a trilogy of identity. I will give you what is, without teaching you, faith. If you are a person of faith, it amazes me how anyone goes to church on Sundays and worships God. I'm christian. But whatever their faith, or their mosque, or their synagogue, or maybe they will go with them to God's Bible study.
But when they get into a sales pitch, they're on their own. When they go to a business meeting, they are alone. Take your faith into your professional life. Second thoughts. Give yourself more credit for your intentions in life. You have the intention. Before we did today's show, I turned off my camera real quick.
I said just give me a second. And I said, Lord, please bless me today. Let me say the right words on the show. And then I remember that today I intend to help people. I may not have all the answers, but my intentions are good. That's where my identity comes from. And then the third part of the trilogy is the associations.
If you have about 150 degrees and 70 degrees, it will heat up nearby over time. And the closer you get to them, the more they can warm you up. And so faith[00:42:00]intention, association.
Hala Taha:Yes, I love it. I want to delve into some of them. So let's talk about intentions. A lot of people, we've talked about this before, sometimes we have negative self-talk and we really think that we don't deserve what we want.
As if we wanted to be doctors, but deep down we don't feel worthy of being doctors. Can you talk about how we need to understand that our intention is important to achieving that goal? 'Cause if we never really accept that we can make it, we're gonna make it
Ed Mylet:i never understood i was 28 and i won a trip to hawaii for my financial business and luckily i get up before the sun. And in those days I am a hundred years old. So nobody trained before. This was in the industry where there were people in the gym and everyone was like construction workers or factory workers, the employees never worked out. I was one of the first and said: So I got up to run.
The sun hasn't risen yet. A guy approaches me on the beach, bald, hairy on his back, sweating. I'm like, wow, and he's coming for me. And it's a man named Wayne[00:43:00]Painter. And Wayne Dyer is one of the most beautiful influential leaders of all time. There used to be all time influencers and he was one of my heroes.
There was Tony Robbins and Wayne Dyer. And God is good that he brought them both into my life as friends. So he came this morning and I said wait Dr. Dyer, he had a Walkman, Sony Walkman. Hey? Very old. And I mean dr. Dyer, you changed my life. And he had a deep voice like mine. He turns, picks up the Walkman.
He says I doubt you changed your life, but how did I help you? And he comes to me and we sit on the beach and for the next 90 minutes I watch the sun rise and I talk to one of the greatest thought leaders in the world. And in that conversation he said, Ed, you're going to change the world.
I'm sure you've said that to other people, right? But at this point I thought, really? And I, he said, you are brilliant in the way you think about the mind and life and business, my god. And he says: And that is not the reason. And he says: And if you start to attribute your confidence and value to your abilities and accomplishments, you're in trouble.
And I said what? I thought you should do this. He tells Ed, you will always haunt him.[00:44:00]And if you suffer or have a setback, it will rain down on you. I'm leaving, so what should I value? He said: You're going to change the world dad because your heart is so beautiful. Your intentions are incredible.
Stay focused on your intentions throughout your life. You intend to make a difference. you intend to get. He says there's nothing wrong with walking into a meeting and saying, I don't know, but I'll find out. There's nothing wrong with saying I've changed my mind. There's nothing wrong with saying I was wrong. And he said: You mean well.
And it was something that I already knew, anyone who hears this knows about themselves and said that I never thought my skills were excellent. Has anyone ever told me this? I think so, or you're cool, but when someone says you mean to help, you mean to do good, I'm like, you got me there.
You are right. Yes, and for the rest of my life, until now, have I tied my worth, my identity, to my intention that when I entered this orphanage, I would be the most capable psychologist or parent in the world? No. My intention was to love these guys. My intention was to introduce myself to them every day and make a difference in their lives.
Me too[00:45:00]appeared too big. I showed myself strong. I've attended many business meetings. I'm not the smartest guy in the room, but I came out with the intention of helping people and I looked so great. Therefore, this connection with your intentions will change your life.
Hala Taha:Yeah, I think that's just as powerful as not caring where you are in the present moment and realizing that your potential lies in your intentions to improve your life and that's tremendous.
Another thing I learned about you from studying you is how loyal you are. As if you were very loyal. You've been with the same woman since you were in elementary school, which for me as a woman means, wow, this is such a great man. I would like to understand how you shape your social environment in relation to the associations you make in your life.
Because you've obviously kept some people close for a long time. You weren't just trying to find a new circle. There are many people who were close to you. So how do you shape your social environment?
Ed Mylet:All this appeals to certain people. I had to leave some behind, but not that many. What I've done with people who no longer serve me is that I've reduced mine.
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Ed Mylet:Being around them, I don't see them that often, but I haven't done much to keep them out of my life. I add new people and what I try to do when I add new people is I want people who love me but I'm really looking for a[00:48:00]Criteria for people who support my values. . And I don't like it when I go to Las Vegas with a group of guys a few times a year.
All of them are great husbands, some of them are church pastors. It doesn't hurt. But I don't want to be with guys who aren't living that part of their lives right because I might get it. I'm not perfect, so I want to see that erased from me. When someone doesn't keep their word or doesn't meticulously tell the truth, we all have that friend.
Or is he just so stupid, right? you have this friend You won't get too close to me.
Ed Mylet:I want people who believe in me. And here's the problem. I have a lot of people, I have a lot of fun friends. You see them on my social networks. Like I have people who actually make you laugh. I love people who make me laugh.
And I'm an introvert, so I like being around extroverts so I can be a fly on the wall. And a big problem is that I want people who don't accept me for who I am. And most people are looking for friends who will accept them for who they are. I'm not looking for that. I'm not looking for acceptance. I'm looking for people who believe a lot in me.
They think I could be even better than I am and hold me to that standard. There's that default word again[00:49:00]that there's a big problem here when I'm around her. Wow. Will you be surprised to hear this? Guys, if more than 5% of our friends' conversations are about when, remember?
I remember you. Remember, you remember George Lopez has these great skis. What do you do when you remember too many of your friends, which is great 5% of the time but means you're working from that history and that memory? Most of my friends remember a little, very little, but we imagine a lot.
We dream a lot. We do a lot, that's where I'm going, man, that's what I think. We could do this. Let's do that next. We act in the present, but we talk a lot about the future, not the past. I don't want too many friends talking about the past. I can do this whenever I want. I'm not there now.
Hala Taha:Yes, this is huge. I love this advice. Then. Let's talk about the difference between self-awareness and identity. I think that's another great concept in your book. Talk to us about what we need to understand by self-awareness and how it differs from identity.
Ed Mylet:this is self confidence[00:50:00]Relationship is a reputation you have with yourself.
Identity is who you think you are, therefore you are connected. They are like identical twin sisters, but they are not exactly alike. Trust is a relationship and a reputation with yourself. And to me, there's another side to confidence that most people don't talk about, and that's humility.
. I want friends who have tremendous humility alongside their confidence, because humility keeps you curious and allows you to grow. Only an overconfident person who is truly confident can be humiliated because they feel comfortable enough with themselves to say they could do better. It takes strength to say that things can get better.
It takes strength to have humility and that's why I seek and hope to have it. Identity is really who you think you are and what you think you're worth. And that's a whole different animal. And although I want you to be very confident, you can be the most confident person in the world.
But what if you put your trust in an identity about yourself? This is far less than true. So I have a lot of faith in who[00:51:00]I am. Have you met these people before? It's just me and they are very confident. I'm like that man. It's exactly what I am, they're sure they're right. So you have a lot of confidence.
They are simply wrong or limited in their identity to themselves. And while I really believe that working on your confidence isn't that hard to do and that you have to do the really hard work in life, it changes that identity because you developed that identity when you were a kid and you did it politely. over time.
And you will never escape that identity. It's your life's thermostat setting. For me it's, look, if I'm really a child of a loving God, if you really believe that, then how am I not amazing? How was I not born to do something big with my life? So if you have a belief, connect it to your identity.
I'm your brother because we both have the same blood. But I am a child of a wonderful God. So there you have it. My intentions, man, I really want to make a difference in the world. I really want to help people. I'm just looking out to sea. In fact, I could have my ass on that beach any day now if[00:52:00]Wanted.
But that is not my intention. My intention is for someone to hear this now and it will change their life. you take my book It will change your goddamn life. So my intentions are good. And thirdly, I'm constantly surrounded by people who believe in me, who challenge me, who push me forward, who were more distant.
There is a great Chinese proverb that says: If you want to know the way forward, ask those who are returning. . So I try to have a few friends in my life who are older than me and on the road. Go. And I can ask her for information. So for me, for most of you, it could be that person.
Mine are people you really know who run big companies and are very well known people. But the only reason they don't is because they are well known. They left and are coming back. And so I want to know the path ahead of me. And that's what you should have in your life, someone like that.
By the way, not all of your associations need to be face to face. You could be a book. When I read a book, I pretend I'm staying at Napoleon Hill's house this week. I'm staying with Ed Mylett, he talks to me. These words were written for me, he speaks to me. I spent the week[00:53:00]with Wayne Dyer many times when she wasn't with him before meeting him.
When I met him, I felt like I knew him. When people meet me, my biggest compliment is that they feel like they know me. And that means they really studied me, they really were in my life. And I hope that when I post on Instagram or have a podcast or a YouTube video or write a book, they say you're talking to me.
And that too is association. It's things like that.
Hala Taha:Yes, 100%. I have to say I have a feeling, especially when you're just starting out, if you just read and keep going up and up, eventually you'll find your mentors who are reading. Just like what you say. I've been listening to Ed Mylett for years, now I'm interviewing him because I approached him for the chance to do something like this.
This also includes learning, studying and doing things yourself. And sometimes your mentors are people you don't really get what you want with. So I love it. Okay, one story you want to tell me that I think will help us figure things out is your story about your uncle who died when he was just 50 and how this actually happened was triggered[00:54:00]creating a healthier lifestyle for yourself and setting your perspective on how you set goals and standards and some of the things that you alluded to that I really want you to address before we wrap up.
Ed Mylet:Although I want to recognize you. You really research. you really do You are unbelievable.
Ed Mylet:My uncle was my godfather and in my family the godfather is a big problem. I looked like him. Have you ever had this relative? You look like you look like him, don't you? So I kind of looked like him.
He walked across a hotel lobby at age 50 and died of a massive heart attack. Young family, three children. And when I was at her funeral, I flew back on the plane with my wife, and the heart attacks are in my RAS now, and the Oprah Winfrey show is on TV, on the plane's TV radio.
Suddenly I put on my headphones. Listen, I see this heart on the screen. I feel it, unplug my headphones and plug them into the plane's system. You're talking about these new scanners that can actually see plaque and arteries. And I would go with Christiana, I would go with my wife. I say hey sign up for one of these.
Does she say why? Are you almost 30? I will, I don't know. i think i should[00:55:00]Do it, she's the fittest guy in the world. I'm leaving, just schedule. Eventually I went to the ultrasound and had a doctor who understood influence and change. What do most doctors do? Well, here's your recipe. He no.
Then you scan. I went to lunch. I literally bought a burrito. I went back inside and was in the lobby. There are two people in the hallway. This doctor knew who I was. He pretended, but took advantage of me. Because if you have enough reasons, remember, you will do anything for those reasons.
This is my chapter on savings goals, mainly why. Then he says I'm looking for Edward Myllet. And I will, I'm Ed Myllet. And he says, oh. And he's looking at my file and we're still in the lobby. And he says, oh my god, I can't believe these arteries are in such a young man's body. And I said what the hell?
Is this not scanned? It already caught my attention, didn't it? You know how to present. He says: Wow, come with me young man. And we walked back to his office in silence. He sits down, closes the folder. So my data is in that folder. What could he really have done? This also works in sales. You could just do the presentation.[00:56:00]
They created neither the need nor the reasons. They didn't excite me because you always make people feel something. He took control of what he wanted me to feel. Most people unwittingly deal with their energy and what it makes people feel. He bends down and says: Let me ask you a question, young man.
I said yes. He says: are you married and not new? I said I am my master. you love your wife I mean yeah I met her when we were kids. He says: Do you have a son? I said yes, I have a two year old son. And he says: This is amazing. He says: Are you interested in it being like a high school diploma? I said what did you just say?
He says do you want to be there when he finishes high school? I said of course yes. He says: You won't be like that, you'll be, you'll be like your Uncle Mike. Now I know he knows about me. And he says: Do you have a girl? I said yes she is a baby and here is a dad.
Does it say what's your name? I said bella He says, will you walk her down the aisle on her wedding day, or will she be in another man's arms and cheat on her? I said what the hell is this sweep man? And he says: Listen to me very carefully, young man. If you don't change what you do, you won't be there for this degree.
There will be another man on your arm[00:57:00]beautiful woman walking through your mansion and the same guy will walk your daughter down the aisle on her wedding day if you don't change things. I wonder what's in this scan? now you understand me right? By the way, this is how it is sold. And he says, There's the good news.
If you do exactly as I say, one day you will walk your precious little girl down the aisle. And if not, it won't happen. Do exactly as I say. Training, diet, supplements, medication and I did it. People ask me: you're 51, at your age you're one of the fittest guys in the world.
Why does it cause about 10 million acres a year? I overdo it, wake up and don't want to go to work, and go to Bella's wedding. And I get my ass out of bed and work out. I've been gone for three days, it hasn't been, there's no Bella wedding. Get up, find a gym. And then my life changed, this encounter, because he leaned over me and the motives show me a man or a woman with quite big motives, really big motives, always born of love.
I'll show you someone who gets up and does whatever it takes to make it happen. And that's why I'm still here. Let's hope she isn't[00:58:00]I'm getting married soon, but when she does, I'll be ready to walk her down the aisle.
Hala Taha:It's such a beautiful and powerful story because it's empty. So how can goals really be empty, right?
Goals can be empty and difficult to achieve if there isn't a good reason behind them. I think the moral of the story is to have a motive and connect it with love and people like you just said. I think this is another important point as well.
Ed Mylet:Yeah, people always ask me what are your motives? They are two things.
It's your dreams or other people's.
Hala Taha:Yes, I totally agree. Okay, one last thing before we wrap up and this is your happy dissatisfaction concept. I think that's a really important point that you want my audience to understand, because you say there are two big motivators. It's about wanting something and trying to get it, and also about avoiding pain.
So talk to us about why we need both and then we can close the deal.
Ed Mylet:You can get both levers. What did the doctor do that day? The pain of dying and missing my daughter's wedding and also the pleasure of being there. These are the two great drivers of our lives. But what most of us[00:59:00]do, I believe in happy dissatisfaction concept.
Most people do. You combine and confuse two things. contentment is not happiness. In fact, you can be happy and still be dissatisfied. You can do both. Contentment, happiness is not the same. That's how I learned to live happily and still be dissatisfied. Dissatisfaction means I am capable of more.
I haven't arrived yet. I'm dissatisfied. I will go look for it. But most people combine those things to make people think I like high achievers. They're big on this man, I'll take it when. I will feel happy if I have to be constantly unhappy and dissatisfied because they think they are the same thing.
So if I have a million dollars in the bank, I'm going to have fun. Then I will make myself happy. When I have the dream relationship, I'm happy when my podcast is number one. So I'm happy if it's this or that. Then I will be happy. If I reach a million followers I will be happy and they will change their happiness to a goal in the future.
The problem is, if you don't feel happy about what you're doing, the finish line keeps moving and you'll eventually burn out because your brain doesn't understand.[01:00:00]all dopamine for your success. And finally he says, he closes, I don't want to do this anymore. You've talked enough about neuroplasticity and understood the neurology of the brain that if you don't get dopamine by doing something over and over again, you give up.
Then there are the other people. They think that if I lose this pain, I will lose my drive and my ambition. It is also not true. You've already bitten into the steak you love or whatever food you love. The first steak is wonderful. You are giving yourself a full dose of bliss. Would you like another bite or not?
Of course. So the amount of joy you get from celebrating your wins and successes actually pushes you to do more, not less. And that's how I learned to live happily and still be dissatisfied. In fact, I think I'm a good example of that. As if I am a very happy and happy person, but I am not satisfied.
I have more work to do, more people to help, more things to accomplish, more memories to create. That's how I learned to live in bliss. You don't have to live in misery while chasing your dream. You don't have to be unhappy, angry, depressed and[01:01:00]take the happiness to get there. Actually get it cause I used to do it.
And that's what I discovered. He won despite this flawed belief system, not because of it. And what I've found is that the more I party, the more I enjoy, the more I give myself the dopamine hits, the bigger I get. The more I expand, the more I grow. And so they learn to be happy and dissatisfied at the same time.
Hala Taha:I love that. Okay, so let's ask all of our guests the same last two questions, and then do some fun stuff at the end of the year. So the first question is: What can my youth and speculators do today to be more profitable tomorrow?
Ed Mylet:do the uncomfortable. I have a chapter in the book called One More Inconvenience.
Change the relationship with pain. Start being willing to do hard and difficult things as you look at your day or week. Do what's uncomfortable, not what's comfortable. Each one does what is comfortable. Do the most uncomfortable and difficult thing you can because that will produce the best results.
Hala Taha:And what is your secret[01:02:00]benefit in life?
Ed Mylet:It is service to other people. I want to help someone else. So my winning secret is that I solve people's problems. My companies solve a problem. So if you can find a problem and solve it, you win. By the way, you don't always need to create a new branch.
Sometimes he goes into an industry that already exists and does it better than the competition. And in many companies today, small is better, agile is better. They can move faster, they can turn around, they can adapt, they can course correct much faster and do much better and much bolder with better customer service, better culture than a big company because they take longer to move and make real decisions.
Hala Taha:I love that. And where can our listeners learn more about you and everything you do?
Ed Mylet:You can buy The Power of One More anywhere the books are sold. You can go to thepoweroonemore.com/ and get a bunch of tools that will improve the book. You can go to Ed Mylett and my last name is M Y L E T and you can go to any social place.
Instagram, probably my biggest social platform is Instagram, but I'm in[01:03:00]LinkedIn, I'm everywhere but Instagram. I have a very, very successful podcast that I'm doing with Sirius right now, but you can listen to it on iTunes, Spotify and Stitcher, wherever there's a podcast. Apple and I also have a YouTube channel. Anything with my name on it, just type in my name and you'll find me.
Hala Taha:And we'll put all those links in the show notes. Ed, it was an amazing conversation. Thank's for your time. I really liked it.
Ed Mylet:I liked it a lot thank you. God bless you.
Hala Taha:Man. This was the first time I met Ed in person and I have to say I was utterly impressed.
I was excited after that interview because he has such a good vibe, such good energy, and he's lost so much knowledge. So I'm going to drop you some top tips and remind you that you can always revisit and replay this episode later. I know I will definitely be hearing this again and again.
Okay, so the first thing I took away from this conversation is that if you want to make the most of life and be financially successful, then you must master the space that you're in.[01:04:00]before spreading your energy out and focusing on different sources of income. This is something that Ed and I talk about and see a lot.
Many people have big dreams. And they are spreading too far. There are many millionaires that we look up to who are now in many different industries and juggling different companies. But when you look back at the core of his success, you'll find that it came from being the best at just one thing.
The path to diversification is to do one thing well and be the best at it. Put all of your attention and energy into being the best podcaster or artist, financial advisor, or whatever you want to be. And once you've achieved massive success in this unique industry and know the ins and outs, only then should you move up, diversify and explore new opportunities.
Second, and I think this is huge, you never get disqualified for lack of preparation, lack of experience or past mistakes. it is impossible to be[01:05:00]prepare yourself for every opportunity that comes your way, but what you can do is pick yourself up and give it your all. When I started this podcast, I didn't feel qualified to approach, let alone interview, guests like David Allen, Gretchen Rubin or Chriss Voss.
But I did it. And I did it very early on because I took a risk. I took that leap. I just went for it. If I had waited until I felt ready, I never would have started this podcast. Make sure you seize and create opportunities and give them everything you've got. And third but not least, help your brain, help program your reticular activating system to help you be the best version of yourself.
Do this through repeatable hypervisualization, where you visualize what you want over and over again. And as you do, your mind or RAS will amplify those thoughts and you'll start to make connections and experiences will appear that will take you one step closer to your dreams. You can also program your reticular activating system using Ed's Actionable[01:06:00]Tips for living your dreams regularly.
Oh, dear God. I loved this concept. Go out and play your dreams whenever you can. Empower yourself to truly live the life you aspire to. I love the example Ed set, taking his wife to a hotel he really couldn't afford, but only staying there for one day and alone.
Feel what it would be like if you were extremely rich. I would touch that feeling and experience that feeling and it's so powerful. It's like visualization on steroids because you are really doing what you want in your daily life. So go ahead, rent that hotel room, take that vacation, give yourself these experiences so you know exactly what to envision and manifest, and before long these experiences will become your everyday reality.
It also reminds me of something Steve Harvey says and says: buy the first class ticket. He says if you buy a first class ticket and have that experience, you get free drinks and lots of legs.[01:07:00]room and you'll have good food, you'll never want to travel economy class again, and you'll find out how to always fly first class.
Sometimes it's just about stepping into your dreams before they come true. And finally, he changes his patterns and creates a new one. By the way, Ed's book, The Power of One More, is an amazing book. I strongly encourage you to go out and buy this. I'll put the links in the program notes. It really was one of my favorite books I've read lately.
And remember, make another one. Don't just keep your promises. Keep your promises and then do more. Go ahead, be better and then do another day. And with this YAP family we are investigating. If, like me, you were inspired by this conversation, please give us a five-star rating on your favorite podcast platform.
This is the number one thanks here at the fair. And you can also find me on Instagram or Twitter on YAP with Hala or on LinkedIn by searching my name. It's Hala Taha. Thank you for your support for[01:08:00]this podcast and, as always, thanks to my amazing team at YAP for all their hard work. I'll get you next time.
Here your host Hala Taha says goodbye.